Getting Back on Dating Apps in Your 40s When You've Been Single a While
For years, my answer to dating apps was a flat no. I'd been single a while. I was independent, comfortable in my own company, and I'd built a life I genuinely liked. Every time the apps came up, I passed. I'd tried them before and never once enjoyed the experience, so why sign up for more of that?
This summer I changed my mind. Not because being alone stopped working for me, but because I actually do want someone in my life, and you can't want that and keep doing nothing about it.
What Nobody Tells You About Waiting as the Other Woman
A couple of months ago I said something on the podcast that I keep coming back to, so I'm going to say it here too.
You are worthy of someone who can be with you 100%, 100% of the time.
When you're in an affair, that's not what you're getting. You're getting whatever he's able to give you. Some days that's a lot. Most days it isn't. It is never 100%.
Dating When Your Past Is Public: What Happened When a Hinge Match Googled Me
When I started The Scarlet Edit, I wasn't thinking about my dating life. I was thinking about the show. It didn't cross my mind that putting my whole story out into the world would follow me onto the apps. But it does. I'm single, I'm on Hinge, and I'm Googleable. My Instagram bio says I was the other woman for five years. Anyone I match with can find that in about thirty seconds.
So what actually happens when a date knows your past before he knows you? This week I found out.
Why Women Stay With Husbands Who Keep Cheating — Amber's Story of Repair After Years of Betrayal
This week I sit down with Amber Laird, who reached out after I put a post on LinkedIn asking to talk to women who'd been betrayed. What came out of our conversation is one of the most honest infidelity stories I've put on the show. Amber's mom cheated on her dad when Amber was eight. Years later, she married a man whose father had also cheated repeatedly on his mother. They walked into their marriage carrying the exact same pattern from opposite directions, and for years, they lived it out.
How to Get Comfortable Doing Things Alone
I do a lot of things by myself. I eat alone, I travel alone, I go to events alone, and none of it feels like a big deal anymore. But I remember when it did.
This week I drove out to Oxnard by myself to see my favorite comedian run new material at a tiny club. I ended up seated in the front row, about four feet from the stage, and I had the best time. It got me thinking about how many women won't do the thing they actually want to do just because they don't have someone to do it with.
Why I Shared My Affair Story Publicly (And What I Learned in One Year)
One year ago today, I posted the first episode of The Scarlet Edit and told the world I was the other woman for five years.
I had no idea if anyone would listen. Now, 71 episodes in, this show has reached women in 97 countries, every U.S. state, and six of the seven continents. Antarctica, I'm coming for you next.
Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone in a New City: What I Learned in Week Three of Summer of George
I could have done all of this from home.
That's the question I kept getting asked once I told people I was spending the summer in Los Angeles as part of my Summer of George series. Couldn't I have joined a gym in Scottsdale? Couldn't I have worked from a coffee shop there? Technically, yes. But I wouldn't have. And that's the whole point.
The Best of The Scarlet Edit: One Year, Seven Women, and the Stories That Stuck With Me
Next week marks one year of The Scarlet Edit, and I wanted to do something a little different to lead into the anniversary episode. So I went back through my guest conversations from 2026 so far and pulled clips from seven women whose stories stuck with me. They're stitched together into one episode, and the whole thing plays like a sampler of what this show has been for the last twelve months.
If you've been listening since the beginning, you'll recognize these voices. If you're new, consider this your invitation to go back through the catalog. Every episode these clips came from is linked in the show notes.
How to Put Yourself Out There When You're Dating in Your 40s
I'm in Los Angeles for a few weeks, and this week I did something that surprised me a little. I texted a guy first.
That sentence might not sound revolutionary. But if you know me, you know I'm a traditional dater. I want the man to make the plan. I want him to pick the place. I want him to hold the door. So when I reached out to someone I'd met on Instagram a few months ago — someone who lives in LA, someone I'd traded voice notes with before life pulled us in different directions — pressing send was the whole point.
Can You Be Friends With Your Ex? A Real Answer for Divorce, Infidelity, and Being the Other Woman
The question of whether you can stay friends with your ex sounds simple. It isn't. The answer changes completely depending on how the relationship ended, who else got hurt, and what role you actually played in it.
I was watching Sex and the City the other night, Carrie and Big sneaking around on Aiden and Natasha, and one of the earlier episodes had the girls debating whether you can ever really be friends with your ex.