Why I Shared My Affair Story Publicly (And What I Learned in One Year)
One year ago today, I posted the first episode of The Scarlet Edit and told the world I was the other woman for five years.
I had no idea if anyone would listen. Now, 71 episodes in, this show has reached women in 97 countries, every U.S. state, and six of the seven continents. Antarctica, I'm coming for you next.
The Best of The Scarlet Edit: One Year, Seven Women, and the Stories That Stuck With Me
Next week marks one year of The Scarlet Edit, and I wanted to do something a little different to lead into the anniversary episode. So I went back through my guest conversations from 2026 so far and pulled clips from seven women whose stories stuck with me. They're stitched together into one episode, and the whole thing plays like a sampler of what this show has been for the last twelve months.
If you've been listening since the beginning, you'll recognize these voices. If you're new, consider this your invitation to go back through the catalog. Every episode these clips came from is linked in the show notes.
Can You Be Friends With Your Ex? A Real Answer for Divorce, Infidelity, and Being the Other Woman
The question of whether you can stay friends with your ex sounds simple. It isn't. The answer changes completely depending on how the relationship ended, who else got hurt, and what role you actually played in it.
I was watching Sex and the City the other night, Carrie and Big sneaking around on Aiden and Natasha, and one of the earlier episodes had the girls debating whether you can ever really be friends with your ex.
What Happens When the Betrayed Wife Wants to Talk to the Other Woman
A few weeks ago, a woman named Sydney sent me a DM on Instagram. She'd been listening to the show. Her husband had had multiple affairs (two in 2021, one this past February), and there was a specific thing I'd said in a recent episode that she wanted to ask me about. Not to fight. Not to drag me. Just to talk.
I said yes. Then I sat in my car for about ten minutes before our pre-call wondering what I'd just signed up for.
How to Work With Me: Self-Worth Coaching After Infidelity, Divorce, and Starting Over
If you've been listening to The Scarlet Edit for a while, or you just found me, at some point you've probably wondered what it actually looks like to work with me. I get the DMs. So I'm putting every way in one place.
There's free, paid, and one program I haven't even opened yet. Quick reminder before we get into it: this show is about infidelity, divorce, and starting over. No shame, no judgment. That's the lane.
How to Forgive the Other Woman After Divorce (Even When She Married Your Ex)
When Danielle Stanton came on The Scarlet Edit, I knew the conversation was going to be one that you couldn’t stop listening to. I've been the other woman. Danielle was the wife. We sat down on opposite sides of the same experience and what came out of it was one of the most honest conversations I've had on this show.
She was married for 20 years. Two small kids. Stay-at-home mom. Then one day her husband came home and told her he'd met someone else.
Why Do Women Marry Men They Don't Love? What the Vrabel & Russini Story Is Really About
I've been quietly watching the Mike Vrabel and Dianna Russini story unfold for the last few weeks. If you haven't been following, here's the short version. He's the head coach of the New England Patriots. She was, until recently, one of the biggest NFL insiders in the business, reporting for The Athletic. They were photographed together at an adults-only resort in Sedona this spring. Both of them are married to other people. Both of them have denied everything.
I went into this curious about the affair. I came out of it stuck on a completely different question. And it's one I think a lot of women already know the answer to, even if we don't say it out loud
Listener Questions: What I'd Do Differently, How I Date Now, and What I'd Tell the Other Woman
I asked my Instagram followers what they wanted me to talk about that I hadn't covered yet, and the questions that came in were so good I built a whole episode around five of them. This is what happens when you ask a community of women who've been through it what they actually want to know — they don't ask softballs.
So I'm going to walk through the five I picked and what I said in the episode, because some of these answers I had genuinely never said out loud before.
Why I Don't Regret Being the Other Woman — And Why I Won't Perform Shame for You
I was the other woman for five years and I don't regret it. I would do it again if I went back in time and I was the exact same version of me I was then. And no, I'm not going to apologize for that.
That's the sentence that breaks people. That's the line that lights up my comment section every single week with strangers who have decided they know me well enough to assign me a feeling I'm supposed to be having. Shame. Regret. Remorse. An apology tour. A grovel.
What to Do When Your Husband Keeps Cheating (And You Have Kids)
In January 2009, my guest Naomi Kreske went looking through her husband's phone. She had just spent the weekend alone with three kids — a five-year-old, a three-year-old, and a nine-month-old — while he was away. He came home, said he was tired, told her he was going to put the kids to bed and crash. Something in her gut said check.