Did He Try to Get Me Back? What Happened When I Left a Married Man
The question I keep getting: did he ever try to get me back?
It shows up in my DMs more than almost anything else. Did he ever try to come back? Did he ever try to change your mind? Did he fight for you?
The answer is no. He didn't.
Why People Get Into Affairs (And What's Actually Missing)
Nobody wakes up wanting to be in an affair. I believe that. I believe most of us are good at our core and that, given the choice, we don't want to hurt the people in our lives. And an affair is a very high risk of doing exactly that. So if almost nobody actually wants to be there, why do so many people find themselves in one anyway?
My answer is that something is lacking within. Not just in the marriage. In the person.
Should I Stay or Should I Leave? The Question Every Other Woman Asks
If you're the other woman, there's a question that runs on a loop in your head from the moment you wake up: do I stay, or do I go? I know it because I lived it. And this week I sat down with Francesca Zoia, a relationship coach in Toronto who spends her days with women stuck in that exact loop. The conversation landed right on the heels of what I've been talking about lately, the version of a relationship that only ever existed in your head.
Here's what I want you to know before we go any further. Nobody gets to hand you the answer. Not me, not Francesca, not the friend who keeps telling you to walk away. But there are better questions than the one you're asking.
What Grief Looks Like When You're the Other Woman Who Ended It
When most people break up, they grieve what they had. The life, the person, the years. You get to mourn something real, something other people watched happen, something you can talk about at dinner.
When you're the other woman and you're the one who ends it, the grief is a different animal. You're grieving him, yes. But you're also grieving everything you imagined and never got to have. And that part is often the harder one, because you can't even point to a memory. You're mourning a future that never existed.
How to Know When You're Ready to End an Affair With a Married Man
Every conversation about being the other woman circles back to him. Getting fed up with his behavior. Fed up with him not choosing you. Fed up with waiting for a call, a plan, a version of him that keeps not showing up. Those feelings are real. I've had every single one of them. But they're not the thing that got me out.
What Nobody Tells You About Waiting as the Other Woman
A couple of months ago I said something on the podcast that I keep coming back to, so I'm going to say it here too.
You are worthy of someone who can be with you 100%, 100% of the time.
When you're in an affair, that's not what you're getting. You're getting whatever he's able to give you. Some days that's a lot. Most days it isn't. It is never 100%.
Why I Shared My Affair Story Publicly (And What I Learned in One Year)
One year ago today, I posted the first episode of The Scarlet Edit and told the world I was the other woman for five years.
I had no idea if anyone would listen. Now, 71 episodes in, this show has reached women in 97 countries, every U.S. state, and six of the seven continents. Antarctica, I'm coming for you next.
The Best of The Scarlet Edit: One Year, Seven Women, and the Stories That Stuck With Me
Next week marks one year of The Scarlet Edit, and I wanted to do something a little different to lead into the anniversary episode. So I went back through my guest conversations from 2026 so far and pulled clips from seven women whose stories stuck with me. They're stitched together into one episode, and the whole thing plays like a sampler of what this show has been for the last twelve months.
If you've been listening since the beginning, you'll recognize these voices. If you're new, consider this your invitation to go back through the catalog. Every episode these clips came from is linked in the show notes.
Can You Be Friends With Your Ex? A Real Answer for Divorce, Infidelity, and Being the Other Woman
The question of whether you can stay friends with your ex sounds simple. It isn't. The answer changes completely depending on how the relationship ended, who else got hurt, and what role you actually played in it.
I was watching Sex and the City the other night, Carrie and Big sneaking around on Aiden and Natasha, and one of the earlier episodes had the girls debating whether you can ever really be friends with your ex.
What Happens When the Betrayed Wife Wants to Talk to the Other Woman
A few weeks ago, a woman named Sydney sent me a DM on Instagram. She'd been listening to the show. Her husband had had multiple affairs (two in 2021, one this past February), and there was a specific thing I'd said in a recent episode that she wanted to ask me about. Not to fight. Not to drag me. Just to talk.
I said yes. Then I sat in my car for about ten minutes before our pre-call wondering what I'd just signed up for.