Why I Don't Regret Being the Other Woman — And Why I Won't Perform Shame for You
I was the other woman for five years and I don't regret it. I would do it again if I went back in time and I was the exact same version of me I was then. And no, I'm not going to apologize for that.
That's the sentence that breaks people. That's the line that lights up my comment section every single week with strangers who have decided they know me well enough to assign me a feeling I'm supposed to be having. Shame. Regret. Remorse. An apology tour. A grovel.
What to Do When Your Husband Keeps Cheating (And You Have Kids)
In January 2009, my guest Naomi Kreske went looking through her husband's phone. She had just spent the weekend alone with three kids — a five-year-old, a three-year-old, and a nine-month-old — while he was away. He came home, said he was tired, told her he was going to put the kids to bed and crash. Something in her gut said check.
Why I've Always Kind of Felt Single, Even in Serious Relationships
I've been a girlfriend, a wife, the other woman. And across every defining relationship, I've still felt single. Here's why.
How to Handle Disappointment in Relationships Without Losing Yourself
Self-awareness is the first step to changing anything in your life. You cannot work through a feeling you can't name. Once I started getting better at identifying my emotions in real time, disappointment got easier to sit with because I stopped confusing it for anger or sadness or betrayal. It's its own thing, and it has its own information to give you.
She Cheated on Her Husband, Got Divorced, and Then Tried to Save the Marriage
Hope shares why she ended her affair, how her husband found out, and what happened when they tried to rebuild their marriage after divorce.
How a Moment at a Stoplight Led to Cheating on Her Husband
A married woman shares why she cheated on her husband — from the moment at a stoplight to the affair she never saw coming.
Reading My Most Judgmental YouTube Comments About Being the Other Woman
I read my most judgmental YouTube comments about being the other woman and responded to every single one without apology.
Why High Performers Cheat — and Why They Can't Stop
Why do high performers cheat and then can't leave? Behavioral scientist Katarina Polonska breaks down the subconscious patterns behind affairs and how to break them.
90% of the Hate Came From Women
Last summer, the world watched a couple get caught in an embrace on the Coldplay Kiss Cam at Gillette Stadium. Chris Martin made an offhand comment about them either being shy or having an affair — and within hours, the internet had identified Kristin Cabot and Andy Byron, dismantled their professional reputations, and turned a two-second moment into a months-long scandal.
Do Happy People Cheat? I Don't Think So.
There's a statistic that gets thrown around constantly in the infidelity space. A 2020 study published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy found that 56% of men and 34% of women who cheat rate their marriages as "happy" or "very happy." You've probably seen it. It shows up in therapy blogs, Reddit threads, podcasts, news articles — everywhere. And it's used to push this narrative that cheating is random, unpredictable, and completely unrelated to the state of the relationship. That it could happen to anyone, even in a good marriage.