Polyamory, Marriage, and the Truth About Love

What happens when sex isn’t the center, contracts don’t define you, and intimacy is built on freedom.

This week on The Scarlet Edit, I sat down with Mike Messeroff — a personal freedom coach who’s been married for 16 years and living polyamory with his wife for the last seven. Our conversation went far beyond labels and into the heart of what it means to build relationships on honesty, autonomy, and choice.

Mike shared how polyamory shifted his marriage, his masculinity, and most importantly, his relationship with himself. From the moment his wife first brought it up, to navigating jealousy, to discovering that freedom takes discipline, Mike has walked through the discomfort most of us avoid — and found deeper love on the other side.

We talked about:

• Why polyamory isn’t “just about sex” and how it differs from swinging or open relationships.

• What happens when your partner wants more but doesn’t want to leave.

• How self-awareness, communication, and boundaries transform not just relationships but your entire life.

• Why marriage as an institution doesn’t guarantee love — and how contracts can actually block growth.

• The spiritual side of love: non-attachment, expansion, and choosing each other every single day.

Mike’s story is raw, challenging, and liberating. Whether you’re curious about polyamory, questioning the myths we’ve been fed about marriage, or simply seeking a more authentic way to love, this episode will make you rethink what intimacy and freedom can look like.

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