Waiting to Be Chosen: What I Learned From Five Years as the Other Woman
Being chosen is something we all want. Not just in relationships. We want to be chosen by friends, by family, in our careers, in every room we walk into. And when we're not, we sit there and pick ourselves apart. What could I have done differently? What was it about me that wasn't good enough? It's a brutal little loop, and almost everyone runs it at some point.
But there's a version of wanting to be chosen that's sharper than the rest, and that's the one that lives inside an affair.
Did He Try to Get Me Back? What Happened When I Left a Married Man
The question I keep getting: did he ever try to get me back?
It shows up in my DMs more than almost anything else. Did he ever try to come back? Did he ever try to change your mind? Did he fight for you?
The answer is no. He didn't.
What Nobody Tells You About Waiting as the Other Woman
A couple of months ago I said something on the podcast that I keep coming back to, so I'm going to say it here too.
You are worthy of someone who can be with you 100%, 100% of the time.
When you're in an affair, that's not what you're getting. You're getting whatever he's able to give you. Some days that's a lot. Most days it isn't. It is never 100%.