Should You Tell a New Partner You Were the Other Woman? What Happened When I Did
If you were part of an affair, at some point you're going to wonder when to tell someone new. First date? Third? Never?
I decided the answer was right away.
The first time I started dating again was about a year after my ex and I broke up. I'd been going out a lot, traveling a little, meeting people organically and on Bumble. And I made a call. I wasn't going to hide the fact that I was the other woman. I was going to lead with it.
My logic was simple. If I don't tell you, it gets awkward. Now I'm carrying something I have to tell you eventually, and I'm trying to figure out when the right time is. So why not tell you from the jump?
I Swore I'd Never Do It Again. Then I Got Back on the Apps.
If you go back far enough in my old episodes, you'll hear me swear off dating apps completely. I hated them. I said I'd never do them again, probably more than once, and I fully meant it.
Then in June, I got back on one. And this whole summer happened because of it.
Dating Again After a Long Time: What It Actually Brings Up
I hadn't dated in a while. Not because I was hiding from it, I just hadn't. And when I got back out there, I found out fast that dating again does something no amount of alone time can do: it holds up a mirror and shows you exactly what you still need to work on.