How to Work With Me: Self-Worth Coaching After Infidelity, Divorce, and Starting Over

If you've been listening to The Scarlet Edit for a while, or you just found me, at some point you've probably wondered what it actually looks like to work with me. I get the DMs. So I'm putting every way in one place.

There's free, paid, and one program I haven't even opened yet. Quick reminder before we get into it: this show is about infidelity, divorce, and starting over. No shame, no judgment. That's the lane.

The Free Ways to Work With Me

The most accessible way to work with me is the one you might already be using. The podcast comes out every Thursday, with bonus episodes when something's worth saying outside the schedule. At this point there are close to 60 episodes in the catalog, including conversations with experts across the relationship space — therapists, attorneys, coaches, women who've lived through it.

Instagram is where I share clips, carousels, reels of what I'm thinking about that week, and stories. I try to use it the way I'd actually want to use social media: when I have something to say, I say it. Not as a content machine.

The third free thing is something I built this year called the Self-Worth Reset. It's a free download — five truths I had to confront after my divorce and the affair that came before it, with prompts to apply them to your own life. You enter your email, it lands in your inbox, and you get added to my list, which sends one email a month. That's it.

The 60-Minute One-on-One

This is for the woman who already knows what she wants to talk about. She doesn't need to walk in with a structured agenda — she just needs a non-judgmental ear and someone who's been in her shoes to ask the questions she hasn't been asking herself.

It's not for the woman who needs a coach to walk side by side with her for months. That's a different offer. The 60-minute is a one-time, focused conversation. You leave it with a clearer head and, usually, a little more confidence in what your gut has been telling you all along.

The 3-Month Coaching Packages

This is the side-by-side work. It's for women involved in infidelity in some form — maybe you're the other woman, maybe you betrayed your spouse, maybe your spouse betrayed you. Maybe you're in the middle of a divorce, or you just got to the other side and don't recognize yourself anymore.

I'm not a therapist. I'm a coach with lived experience, and the work I do is specifically about self-worth — not fixing the relationship, not helping you stay, not strategizing how to handle the affair partner. It's about you getting back to yourself so you can make the decisions you've been avoiding.

The way in is a free 15-minute discovery call. We use that time to figure out if we're a fit, both directions. From there, we choose the package that matches where you are.

The Group Program — Application Only, Coming This Summer

The last way to work with me isn't open yet, but it's coming. A small group program. Six women max. By application only.

Here's the context. When I launched The Scarlet Edit, I tried to build community through a Patreon. It didn't land. A few women joined, and I'm grateful for them, but it never got off the ground.

I've thought about why, and I think it comes down to this: the women I hear from are usually telling me they haven't told anyone else. Not their family. Not their friends. Just me, in a DM. So expecting them to show up in an open Patreon group — even with a fake handle — was the wrong ask. The container has to be smaller, more curated, and more intentional for any of this to feel safe.

That's why this version is application based. I want the women in the room to be the women who actually want to be in the room. Women who can say where they are and where they want to be and let the rest of the group meet them there.

If you've been in my DMs already, you'll get an application emailed to you. If you were part of the Patreon, same. If we haven't spoken yet and you want to be considered for this first cohort or future ones, send me a message.

What All of This Is Actually About

If you take nothing else from this, take this. None of the work I do is about fixing a relationship. It's not about helping you stay somewhere. It's not about figuring out what to do about him. It's about you. Your self-worth. The way you see yourself when no one else is looking. That's the only thing I'm coaching toward, because once that's in place, the rest of the decisions get a lot less complicated.

FAQ

What's the difference between a coach and a therapist for infidelity?

A therapist is licensed to diagnose and treat mental health conditions. A coach works with you forward — helping you make decisions, set boundaries, and rebuild your sense of self. I'm a coach with lived experience, not a therapist. If you need clinical support, I'll tell you.

Can I work with you if I'm currently in an affair?

Yes. Many of the women I work with are still in the middle of it — as the other woman, as the partner who strayed, or as the one who's been betrayed and isn't sure what to do yet. There's no requirement to have already left or already decided. The work is about you, not the relationship.

Do I have to be divorced to work with a self-worth coach?

No. Some of the women I work with are still married. Some are mid-divorce. Some are on the other side of it. The throughline isn't relationship status — it's wanting to rebuild your sense of self after something broke it.

How do I know whether the 60-minute one-on-one or a coaching package is right for me?

If you have one specific thing you want to talk through and you want a focused, one-time conversation, the 60-minute is right. If you're looking at where you are versus where you want to be and you know you need someone to walk with you for a few months to get there, the coaching package is right. The 15-minute discovery call exists to figure that out together.

How do I get on the list for the group program?

Send me a DM on Instagram or an email. If we've already had conversations or you were part of my Patreon, you'll be invited directly. Otherwise, ask to be added and I'll send the application when it's ready.

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