Will He Leave His Wife? What the Other Woman and the Betrayed Wife Agree On
I've had a few betrayed wives on this show. Lauren LaRusso is a betrayed wife who also happens to be a licensed psychotherapist, the author of Beyond Infidelity, and someone who works with every person in the affair triangle. Including women like me.
She'd been on my list for a while. Her team reached out before I could.
She was the betrayed wife. I was the other woman. We spent an hour agreeing on more than either side of the internet would like.
Waiting to Be Chosen: What I Learned From Five Years as the Other Woman
Being chosen is something we all want. Not just in relationships. We want to be chosen by friends, by family, in our careers, in every room we walk into. And when we're not, we sit there and pick ourselves apart. What could I have done differently? What was it about me that wasn't good enough? It's a brutal little loop, and almost everyone runs it at some point.
But there's a version of wanting to be chosen that's sharper than the rest, and that's the one that lives inside an affair.
Should I Stay or Should I Leave? The Question Every Other Woman Asks
If you're the other woman, there's a question that runs on a loop in your head from the moment you wake up: do I stay, or do I go? I know it because I lived it. And this week I sat down with Francesca Zoia, a relationship coach in Toronto who spends her days with women stuck in that exact loop. The conversation landed right on the heels of what I've been talking about lately, the version of a relationship that only ever existed in your head.
Here's what I want you to know before we go any further. Nobody gets to hand you the answer. Not me, not Francesca, not the friend who keeps telling you to walk away. But there are better questions than the one you're asking.