What Grief Looks Like When You're the Other Woman Who Ended It

When most people break up, they grieve what they had. The life, the person, the years. You get to mourn something real, something other people watched happen, something you can talk about at dinner.

When you're the other woman and you're the one who ends it, the grief is a different animal. You're grieving him, yes. But you're also grieving everything you imagined and never got to have. And that part is often the harder one, because you can't even point to a memory. You're mourning a future that never existed.