It’s Not Your Fault.

And That Matters More Than You Think.

I’ve had a lot of conversations on The Scarlet Edit that stay with me.
This one is sitting differently.

This week’s guest, June Edward, is a psychic medium who quite literally died, came back, and has spent decades studying energy, relationships, and why things happen the way they do. I went into this conversation curious, open, and grounded, ready to learn all about “the other side”.

What June shared about infidelity, self-worth, and love landed in a way that felt deeply stabilizing, especially for women who have been carrying shame that was never theirs to hold.

One of the most important things she said was this:
When someone cheats, it is almost never about the person who was cheated on.

That doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt.
It doesn’t mean it doesn’t fracture trust or change the trajectory of a relationship.
But it does mean this: you did not cause it.

So many women, especially smart, capable, emotionally aware women, go straight into self-interrogation when infidelity surfaces.

What did I miss? What should I have done differently? Why wasn’t I enough?

June framed it differently. She talked about self-worth not as something someone else assigns to you, but as an internal knowing. And when someone cheats, she believes it’s often rooted in the cheater’s lack of self-worth, not a deficit in their partner.

That perspective alone can loosen a grip you may not even realize you’re holding.

We also talked about something I think doesn’t get enough airtime: unconditional love does not mean unconditional access. You can love someone and still walk away. You can release hatred without rewriting history. You can acknowledge what a relationship gave you without staying loyal to its damage.

Another theme that stayed with me was fear; how much of our decision-making, especially in relationships, is driven by it. Fear of being alone. Fear of starting over. Fear of not being chosen again. June made a clear distinction between fear-based decisions and soul-based knowing. One feels frantic and loud. The other feels calm, even when the choice itself is hard.

If you’ve ever made a decision that didn’t make logical sense to anyone else, but felt deeply right in your body, you know what I mean.

She also broke down what she calls the five love lessons we’re all here to learn: self-worth, trust and communication, unconditional love, money and balance, and patience. Not in a “manifest it and move on” way, but in a very grounded, lived-experience way. The kind that recognizes that these lessons often arrive through heartbreak, not clarity.

This episode isn’t about convincing you of anything spiritual or metaphysical. It’s about offering a reframe, one that takes the weight off your shoulders if you’ve been blaming yourself for someone else’s choices.

You are not defined by what someone did to you.
You are not less worthy because a relationship broke.
And you are allowed to stop carrying responsibility that was never yours.

If you’re in the middle of something right now - confusion, betrayal, the quiet aftermath of a relationship ending - I hope this conversation meets you with a little steadiness.

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